Do you take responsibility for your own pleasure?
"You are responsible for your own pleasure and your own orgasm (if desired). You may enlist the help of your partner, of course, but no one else owns your pleasure. That means, likewise, that you are not responsible for your partner’s. You can be a willing participant, but it is not your burden to know what they want or to do it perfectly on your own."
-Jessa Zimmerman from Sex Without Stress
Mindful Sex
If you notice you are becoming distracted by thoughts during sex, see if you can focus your attention on pleasurable sensations.
Repeat this over and over again with an attitude of self-kindness.
Get distracted by thoughts -> redirect your attention to pleasure.
Distracted thoughts come up again -> try focusing on pleasure.
Curious to learn more about how mindfulness skills can be applied to your sex life?