True Intimacy
"This is what we mean by intimacy - the tender and empathic search for each other with its subtle discoveries and revelations. Intimate passion is nourished by the shared pleasure of knowing how to read each other's mood and erotic body temperature, spelling out each other's alphabet of wishes and desires, knowing in detail and moment by moment how to please and be pleased. With these ingredients, a fundamentally new sexuality awakens. Bodies are grateful creatures: Treat them well, touch them well, and sensual fulfillment will probably be the reward."
-Renate Stendhal
Mindful Sex
If you notice you are becoming distracted by thoughts during sex, see if you can focus your attention on pleasurable sensations.
Repeat this over and over again with an attitude of self-kindness.
Get distracted by thoughts -> redirect your attention to pleasure.
Distracted thoughts come up again -> try focusing on pleasure.
Curious to learn more about how mindfulness skills can be applied to your sex life?
What is sex?
How would you define sex?
If 'Intercourse' is the first thing that comes to mind, see if you can broaden your view.
Better yet, see if you can have sex with no intercourse at all. Where might you begin?